Many aren’t exactly sure what coaching is and how it differs from counseling or therapy. Here’s my answer and then if you’re so inclined, read on to hear Steve Chandler’s take on coaching.
- is focused on the future and what a client wants to create;
- addresses past negative experiences when applicable but is not focused on healing past trauma;
- focuses on moving into action rather than staying stuck in feelings;
- helps a client remove limiting beliefs and stories that don’t serve him/her;
- connects a client to his/her purpose and strengths;
- moves clients from being the victims to the owners of their lives;
- holds clients accountable for the change they wish to create;
- is for people who already function well on a daily basis but want to create even more fulfilling lives.
Steve Chandler on Coaching
Great coaches do work that is similar to a sculptor’s work. They see what’s possible in their client, and then they help the client carve the negative beliefs away. Soon the client is feeling a freedom he has never known. This freedom happened for me when I turned my life’s dreams over to the hammer and chisel of my own coach, Steve Hardison.
The term “coaching” comes from the world of sports and also from the performing arts. That’s why they call it coaching instead of “consulting” or “advising” or “counseling.”
I remember a time when there was no coaching for people like you and me. There was only coaching for athletes and singers and actors. (Those superstars had strength coaches, voice coaches, and dialect coaches; they had quarterback coaches, golf coaches, and hitting coaches. For you and me? There were no life coaches.)
But soon a personal growth movement began as the world got more entrepreneurial and creative. Individuals became more empowered. NO longer did most people work for the same huge company at the same boring job all their lives and then get a watch and retire and wear the watch in the open coffin.
Creative people and innovative small businesses were rising up. People changed jobs often, and even changed careers, and soon anyone who really wanted to succeed was considering hiring a coach.
Why not? Two heads have always been better than one. If you want something achieved, are you not better with two people on the project than one?
A lot of people have thought that this explosion of personal coaching is absurd. Why should the average person be hiring a coach? A life coach? Are you kidding me? Don’t you already know about life? Don’t you know how to live?
People asking those questions were missing the point. This was not about survival. This was about thriving.
Even today, people wonder if their ordinary life qualifies for “coaching.” It’s that whole “little old me” approach to low self-esteem and false modesty. That’s the very problem that coaching ends up solving.
Mocking self-help is the ego protecting itself. However, protecting the ego keeps me isolated and shrunken down to my most survivable self. So I feel disconnected, not only from the world, but from own potential.
…. Looking back, I see what being coached has done for me. Without it, my life would have been a long, dreary compromise. A dark festival of regrets and missed opportunities.
Excerpt taken from The Life Coaching Connection: How Coaching Changes Lives by Steve Chandler